Monday, February 24, 9992


There are many forms of drama, and the false self (ego) enjoys either taking part in or observing them. Why?

The ego wants to feel that it is more valuable, powerful, or fortunate than others. It cannot do this without conflict, because getting along with others means that everyone is in the same position. It has to criticize others or attract attention to itself in order to feel more valuable. It has to exert force on others in order to feel more powerful. It has to see others as unfortunate so it can feel fortunate. This is why so many people love to point out the “bad” thing a politician or celebrity did; or claim that all people of a certain race, religion, or country are “bad”; or brag; or tell woe-is-me stories; or bully others; or spread rumors; or ridicule others for their mistakes; or see news reports about starving people or earthquake victims. The misfortunes of others give the ego a false and temporary “lift”: if someone else has been lowered, then the ego is “higher” by comparison. And its own misfortunes are used to gain self-validation via others’ sympathy.

If the ego cannot find real-life drama, it will seek it in television shows. It loves to absorb itself in a juicy story of betrayal, violence, or personal pain. This provides the false self with a substitute form of drama.

The true self doesn’t want any kind of conflict because its nature is acceptance. It experiences things as they are and does not compare or compete. It is always in the moment, not thinking, but simply aware.